Park it?

 Grieving the body you once had—and accepting where you are now—is a challenge, to say the least.

But acceptance does not mean giving up.

If you are part of this community and reading this, I know something about you: you are not ready to park the car just yet. In fact, you are the opposite. You want to keep moving, keep exploring, and keep living a full life for as long as you can.

You are willing to try something new—even if it feels a little “weird” at first—in order to stay on the field of your life.

In a recent class, one of my clients, now in her 70s, shared that one of the hardest things has been grieving the body she once had. She said that at a certain age, some people are told, “Well, that’s just how it is now. Time to park it.”

But not her.

Since working with one of my colleagues and now with me, she has decreased her pain from a 10 to a 2. She is not giving up on feeling better. She is continuing to learn, experiment, and show up for herself.

I am learning this too as I move through the perimenopause years and grieve parts of the body I once had.

I need more rest now. In this season of my life, recovery is just as important as training.

And training looks different. It is less about pushing harder and more about tending to my nervous system, my mobility, my breath, and the signals my body is giving me.

There is room to grieve what has changed.

And there is room for acceptance—not as giving up, but as a form of love.

A love that allows us to meet the body we have today with more care, more curiosity, and more support.

We can keep showing up, keep learning, and keep playing the game—even when the field changes.

With love,

Lila